Wow, this is so good. I, too, as an enneagram 9, hate disappointing people. And I’ve also been wondering how to change my expectations of negative reactions, burned into my brain from past experience, when the current experience is so different.
Changing our thinking patterns is probably the hardest thing to do. We expect what we’ve always gotten, even when we can see the other person is working hard to change. It’s an ongoing battle that always starts with questioning our first thought: Is this true? Is it pure? Just? Lovely? I’m definitely not saying it’s easy.
Wow, this is so good. I, too, as an enneagram 9, hate disappointing people. And I’ve also been wondering how to change my expectations of negative reactions, burned into my brain from past experience, when the current experience is so different.
Changing our thinking patterns is probably the hardest thing to do. We expect what we’ve always gotten, even when we can see the other person is working hard to change. It’s an ongoing battle that always starts with questioning our first thought: Is this true? Is it pure? Just? Lovely? I’m definitely not saying it’s easy.